Tarni,
Yep, things haven't been right for a long time.
I think some of the problem is that it didn't remain a personal problem between us. He had a bunch of things to say about me on his myspace without ever specifying that his definition of cheating was a BOF. I think "cheating *****" was my favorite
Most think it's a living, breathing person and I would never do that while I was married. As far as I'm concerned, yes, I am still married but all that's left is the piece of paper, so no, I wouldn't sleep with another guy.