[lunamor]

It's understandable to want something longterm - when we're happy, we don't want to lose it!

On the other hand, it's rather scary (to me) to be contacted by someone who is looking for LTR right out of the gate. Why? Because it seems to me that he's already got a script in his head for the future, and he's looking to shove someone (who, ME?) into acting it out for his fulfillment. And we don't even know each other yet!

I also know that if I'd always insisted on LTR, I'd have cheated myself bigtime because I once met and knew someone for only a few short months, we knew it was time-limited but he was incredibly special, and I still treasure my memories of our time together.

I think the best thing is to just be open to meeting and knowing good, nice men without putting any kind of pre-conditions upon it - good, nice men are rare, and always worth knowing! Then see how it feels, and where it goes. In reality, knowing someone and being close is always a day-to-day thing, anyway. You can never know if the days will stretch into years, or not - even if someone says they want LTR.

But that's just me.